How have you been showing up?🙋 Is it good enough for you and the vision of what you wanted this life to be? 🧐Or are you asleep at the wheel 😴of your own life, listening to what everyone else wants you to do?
Isn’t today the right day to make sure that you’re living for yourself and what you want from your life?
Not too long ago, I spoke with a friend who’s a doctor. 👨⚕️He’s doing incredible work in the world. But he’s done. The medical field has burned him out. He confessed that he’s actually hated the last ten years of his life, but he feels stuck. 😔
That stuck feeling? It’s a lie. He’s resourceful, just like you.
So I asked him, “When will enough be enough?”
There are only two reasons that humans change:
I asked my friend how many more years he was going to allow himself to spend feeling stuck. Could he stand another decade in that mindset? If he decides to move, to make a change, he can truly live up to his potential. 🔥
How painful does it have to get for you to make a change, for you to finally realize that you have agency in your life? 🤷
You’ve got to MOVE! 🏃
Am I pushing you beyond your comfort zone? 🥊You bet I am.
When we get to the end of our lives, we will meet the version of ourselves that we were put on this earth to become. All of your potential will be unleashed. When you meet that version of yourself, will you be looking in the mirror? Or will you be looking at a stranger?
Your online presence is composed of all of your online “storefronts” - all representations of your brand. 💻 It’s Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, you name it! To generate success, your online presence must be cohesive. 🤝 You need to look the same on Facebook as you look on your website. Uniformity in colors, styles, and fonts is supremely important and speaks to how you’re presenting your business online.
Think of your personal branding like dating. You don’t start with a marriage proposal! 💍
❤️Your Website - It’s what you’re wearing to the bar, how people perceive you when they see you across the room. It entices them into an introduction.
❤️Your Lead Magnet - It’s an invitation for a potential customer to take the next step with you. They’ve seen you. They like you. Now you’re saying, “Hey, can I buy you a drink?” 🍸
❤️Your Badass Email List - The next step of your client relationship is picking a time and place for your date. Are you meeting up in a meeting room? On Facebook? Over the phone? Find out where your list likes to hang out - do they want email newsletters? Do they want interaction in a Facebook group? Meet them where they are!
❤️Your Content Strategy - Extend the relationship! Keep wooing them. People buy from people they know, like, and trust, as well as people who are present in front of them! If I haven’t seen the person I want to date, I’m going to move on to someone else!
❤️You Need to Have a System - At this point, you’re ready to commit to each other. You’ve been dating for a while, and you’re ready to define your relationship and take the next steps. This is where you introduce your value ladder to your clients!
As fun as this metaphor is, we do have to take a step back from it at some point. In this whole process, you are a guide. 🤓Your customer is the hero. 🦸You’re guiding them along the process. The date has nothing to do with you. They’re not marrying you.
They’re marrying their results. 📈They’re marrying your bold promise. 🙏 They’re marrying their future. 🏆
You’ve guided them along the process and now they’re ready to say yes to themselves. 💯
Are you ready to say yes to yourself to help your clients do the same? Reach out to me - I'd love to talk!
Guatemala, thank you for opening my heart 💞
One month of living and working in Guatemala.
What an amazing, life-changing, life-affirming experience. 🙏
I came to Guatemala to close out 2019 powerfully, and more importantly to bring some intentionality to the start of this new year and new decade (and to test out international digital nomading👩💻!).
I have BIG plans 🌟for these upcoming years, and I wanted a start to the year that was symbolic of that. And what an incredible trip it was! 🗺
Here are some highlights (in bullet format because GO nerds!!):
This month in Guatemala was so complete and my heart is so open as I head back to the US . This time was beautiful, inspiring, hard, and humbling. 💖
It reminded me what it's like to be excited about hot water 💦, electricity ⚡, consistent strong internet 💻, about not having to worry about brushing my teeth with tap water and thinking I'll get sick from it...
It was humbling. It reminded me how many things I have taken for granted. It showed me the ways I was acting entitled, rather than grateful. For this, I am grateful 🙏. To go home and be excited at the little things, that are little things for so many of us living in the US, but are not things that millions and billions around the world have access to.
To hear the stories of entrepreneurs here, and the hard, hard journey they've had to endure, the risks they have taken, the courage 🔥 they have shown in the face of obstacles.
It reminded me that we are all connected.
That we are in this together.
All of us.
We must walk this journey side by side. 🤝
It reminded me of the power of humility and compassion in bringing people together. In not seeing ourselves as separate from the other. That we are all after the same things 🌟: happiness, love, connection, safety, progress, a better life...
It taught me how important it is to keep working with entrepreneurs around the world 🗺. The great equalizer of our time is the internet 💻, I truly believe this, and I commit to sharing the tools of entrepreneurship with any and all entrepreneurs around the world that want to create a better world for themselves, their families, communities and the world.
We impact entrepreneurs, all around the globe, are in this together. I commit to doing what I can to help you reach your goals in progress and positive impact. 💯
Tomorrow, I will land in Houston, and the next morning I will be on another flight ✈- this time to San Francisco where I will get on another stage 🎙️and serve as emcee for an amazing organization I'm working with this year. It seems this is the year of stages, and I'm so excited. 😍
There might be some possibilities to keep doing international 🗺entrepreneurial training, and honestly guys, this bring tears to my eyes. THIS is what I worked for all my life. To find a medium, a vehicle for real change and transformation, that really empowers people to surpass their current life circumstances and difficulties. Entrepreneurship is that tool. 💥
This is how we change the world.
One person at a time, knowing they are limitless.
You knowing you are limitless. 🔥
Knowing that with the tools we have access too in today's world 👩💻🤳🏼, where 1700 people a day are becoming millionaires, there is nothing holding you back from creating the life you desire. I truly believe this. You are limitless.
I am more fired up than ever about this work that we are doing together.
My commitment steadfast.
Soul on fire 🔥 to empower an army of impact entrepreneurs around the world, so they can create the positive impact they see in the world - so we can tackle directly the world's most challenging issues - poverty, world hunger, lack of education, women's rights. 🌟🙌🔥
We are in this together, building a grassroots movement, one by one. 👊
Entrepreneur, hear me:
your voice matters,
please shine bright.
The world needs you 💯
I am here cheering you on always. Louder than ever. 🎉
Let's ROCK this year and decade 🔥
One Saturday I broke down crying in front of 200 strangers. I was exhausted, a little bitter, and on edge. ⛔️
The organizer asked me what “what lights you up, what would make you feel like you are full ✨from the inside out so you have more to give?”
Fighting back the tears, I fought with myself as to whether I should share the answer I REALLY had in mind. It seemed such a “selfish” answer.
Sobbing, and feeling such strong guilt at having this one desire I said, “I just want to be alone, I want no one to talk to me, I just want SILENCE. I’m soooooo tired. I’m exhausted. I’m always giving and right now I don’t have more to give. I’m showing up bitter, on edge, exhausted, and it’s not pretty for anyone, but I mostly feel crappy because I feel like I’m letting ME down.” 😔
I wanted to make a point for anyone else in that room that is a giver, any maybe YOU reading this post, that it’s NOT selfish to have needs and wants of YOUR OWN that we put ABOVE those of other people. 👊
I don’t know about you, but if I’m honest, I feel a brick-ton wall on my shoulders with the responsibility I’ve placed on myself. I did this. I placed that responsibility there. The responsibility of feeling like it’s on me to make it financially for my family, to be perfect, to never drop balls when it comes to my business, my commitment to impact at a global scale, my commitment to all those I serve, give, give, give, give. Empty. 😶
I forget the exact question that was asked, but it was along the lines of how will your loved ones suffer if you don’t step up. I got up to share what I thought was an unpopular and potentially taboo answer.
As a giver who’s always looking out for others, always GIVING, it wasn’t about what ELSE I could give to others, right there, in that moment sitting in that room, I had nothing more to give. I was run down to the ground, exhausted, on the brink of tears at any moment. Starting to feel bitter at the many things I have to be grateful for.
What I felt: Exhaustion. Run down. On the brink of tears. On edge. Having given so little to ME that I had no more to give. The cup didn’t runneth over. Empty. 😶
I wanted to share my perspective with the room, and with YOU in this newsletter, because I knew this perspective couldn’t just be my own, I knew that there were other women, coaches, and entrepreneurs in the room who would relate, and I’m sharing this here now:
1) to keep reminding myself that I HAVE to put myself first 🙋♀️, ahead of my family, clients, the world or I will run myself to the ground, and
2) to share in case this speaks directly to YOU 🙏
It’s not comfortable for me to share this here, but I know that many entrepreneurs, coaches, moms, fight a silent battle with themselves where we don’t feel like we should feel these feelings, and we definitely don’t share them.
➡️The story I bought into: you’re not supposed to put yourself above others’ needs. They’re indecent feelings to have.
My inner gremlins 👿:
- How dare you?
- Who do you think you are?
- How selfish to not respond right away
- You’re letting them down
- You haven’t earned the right to have time off for yourself yet
- They’re counting on you
- You’re the only one that can provide and take care of them
You know I’m here to be real with you and to share the ups AND downs of my personal journey.
We often just see the glamorous parts of peoples’ lives and sometimes that can lead to us feeling alone in our struggles.
So if this has resonated with you at all, know it’s not just you. I’ve been there too, and am constantly working on this aspect of my life. 🤷♀️
You see, I’m a coach, a sister, a daughter, team-leader. So many places to serve and care for others. I’m a giver by nature, I can’t help it, it goes against my nature NOT to care and give. I’ve always been the one who’s has stepped up to serve, and too often, I’ve equated being in that role of service as being responsible FOR OTHERS, which honestly isn’t fair to them nor me.
And if I’m honest, I don’t know about you, but often when I say no, when I put my own needs ahead of others’ I feel SHAME, I feel like I’m letting someone down, and that’s the last thing I want to do, let someone down. I’m such a lover, a giver, a performer, I hold myself to the standard of excellence…I don’t like to let people down.
But that has come at the price of letting MYSELF down, again, and again, and again. 😔
So now I’m speaking directly to YOU (and to me in the future when this might happen again).
LISTEN UP, you HAVE to put yourself first. 👊
… or everything else you do care about, and you work so hard for, will suffer and might just go to shit. You might go to shit. Your dreams, your health, your sanity, might go to shit.
🗣 Let me say that one again, YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST.
It is NOT selfish to be self-interested 🙅♀️.
The most loving thing you can do for everyone in your life is to set boundaries, to get practiced at saying no. 🥰
I make it a point to make my coaching clients that they MUST put self-love days and times on their calendars, and it’s time I take my own medicine 🥄.
🙋♀️ It’s time you also listen up if this resonated with YOU.
I make a commitment to ME here, and I invite you to join me in this commitment too:
✨ I commit to putting myself first and not feeling selfish when I take care of ME
✨ I commit to putting my needs above those of my family, my clients, and all those I serve without feeling shame or guilt so when I serve them and LOVE on them, I’m doing so from a cup full of love, joy, and abundance
✨ I commit to sticking by my boundaries even if others are inconvenienced by them or it “let’s them down”
✨ I commit to only saying yes to something that is a HELL YES for me, even if it means someone else is disappointed or discomforted by my saying YES for myself
✨ I commit to adding space to love me EVERYDAY without feeling shame
✨ I commit to saying NO a LOT in this upcoming year, so each yes will be a more meaningful and empowered YES
✨ I commit to doing those things that light up my heart EVERY week without feeling shame
✨ I commit to taking time off every week and not feeling shameful about it
✨ I commit to NOT responding to everyone’s needs and wants immediately, and to respecting my boundaries
✨ I commit to being self-interested and not making me wrong for it
✨ I commit to communicating my boundaries with everyone in my life and sharing that these are non-negotiables, and not feeling guilty doing so
✨ I commit to taking time off every week
✨ I commit to making myself HAPPY
✨ I commit to having FUN
✨ I commit to the things that make me feel abundant and JOYFUL
Look, if I’m honest, these commitments are going to be HARD for me to keep to. But everything I desire and want depends on me showing up for myself and keeping myself healthy and HAPPY. 🙌
We’re in this together, but mostly, you’re in this with YOU. 👊
Please show up for you, love you, and do the things that make your heart sing.
Drop a 👊 if this spoke to you, and share what YOUR commitment to YOU is for the rest of the year and into 2020!
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🍾Welcome to 2020!! 🥂
Happy New Year! We’ve made it to 2020!
😍I am SO pumped for this year. 💪
We’ve done the work. We came together as a community. You prepped for 2020. You reflected on what 2019 meant for you and what the entire last decade was about.
🔥You are ready to go with your 2 big goals for 2020.
🔥You have your two theme words from our TRAINING
🔥You have your vision for the future.
🔥You are prepped and ready to go, and I am so excited.
As you prepare for this next year 🗓️, I want you to keep your top two themes in the front of your mind at all times. When you think of what you want 2020 to mean to you, keep those themes and your top 3-4 goals for your personal and professional lives at the forefront.
🙋What skill sets do you need to gain?
🙋What characteristics are you choosing to adopt in yourself?
🙋Who are you committed to being?
🙋What is your vision for the next decade?
This is such an incredible, exciting time of year. 🤗
It’s January 2020! You are stepping into this decade on fire, and I am so proud! 🔥
It’s an honor and a privilege to walk this journey with you.
🤩Who are you committed to being in 2020? Share your top goals in the Facebook Group.
If you haven’t already joined a mastermind in 2020, join our COURSE. 👩💻
If you need one on one attention 🤝, I’d love to be your COACH.
Hope is not a strategy.
As a tribe, we are walking into this next decade with a plan. 📄The plan might change, but we’re always walking with intentionality and asking the deeper questions about who we want to become and how we want to live our lives.
If you haven’t already, take this training to focus your answers and your goals for the year.
Let’s start the year on FIRE! 🔥🔥🔥
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