STOP Waiting to be CHOSEN
STOP waiting to be CHOSEN. You've got to choose yourself YOURSELF over and over and over again. ⚡️
No one gets to tell you what you can and cannot become, only you have that POWER. Not statistics, not "well, this is the way it's always been done," not "that's crazy, there's no way you can do it." It's your choice if you listen to limitations.
Got here from Mexico and lived in the Ghetto. Gang violence, poverty, low standards all around. Lived in a tiny apartment with 21, TWENTY-ONE!!!, people crammed in like sardines. I was one of the only from my group of friends to make it to school. Statistics said I shouldn't graduate, I would amount to nothing, be on government support my whole life. You know what I said? Bullshit. Fuck you. I don't need you, statistics to tell ME who I can or cannot become. 🙅♀️
Graduated from my high school class, third in my class, having enough college credits already accrued to graduate a semester early from college. Oh, got a full-ride scholarship to UC Berkeley, graduated a semester early, speaking 5 languages, having traveled all over the world, having been president of I don't know how many organizations, and ready to serve my country via service for two years with Teach For America.
You don't have experience ... you've never taught. I taught in the circle of fire, in the middle of the three most dangerous gangs in San Jose. But hey, this is how I grew up. I knew ALL about poverty, gangs, low expectations. My kids THRIVED in my classroom. They stuck around lunch time so they could work on complicated math problems that filled the entire board. We danced, we sang, we LOVED learning. I'd have to kick them out after school to finally go home. I stood before them and said "If I can make it, if I can be here, YOU CAN TOO." 🌟
Law school. Only two percent of Latinas in the US go to law school, now to a world-top tier law school, even less. Again, all statistics were against me. Honey badger don't care. I KEPT GOING. I attended Berkeley Law, ran a ton of organizations, ran the Berkeley Graduate Social Club - in charge of putting on events for all 11,000, eleven THOUSAND, graduate students at the best university in the world. I again traveled to the Netherlands and worked on an international justice program that was brining international legal standards to war-torn areas, making my dreams come true. ⚡️
In law school I was told it was impossible to get published, that you'd have to SETTLE for editing other's people work. I said BULLSHIT. Not only did I get published, I got published for the HARVARD Journal of Hispanic Policy. Take THAT statistics. Don't you DARE tell me who I can or cannot become. ⚜️
I completely changed careers. I entered the world of startups. Was told again and again: "you don't have experience", "you've never worked in startups", "you don't know this world". BULLSHIT. FUCK YOUR LIMITATIONS. They don't hold ME back. I worked at a startup, two years later started MY OWN to disrupt the world of global finance and banking. You know... no biggie. We're still on that journey. My dreams have no timeline. But watch out banking world, because this girl is on a mission, and when I'M on a mission, it GETS DONE. 🔥
"YOU'RE NOT AN ENTREPRENEUR" Ouch. One of my closest mentors years ago told me "you don't have what it takes to be an entrepreneur." That one hurt. But you know what? I held a space of compassion and empathy because they don't know me and what I'm made up like I do. It's okay, I still love them and I KNOW I'm the only person who gets to define whether I'm successful or not. Now, I'm a serial entrepreneur, speaker, soon-to-be-author, video influencer, taking action, growing an incredible brand and global movement. 💫
Running 13 miles. My first Marathon. FIFTY FREAKING MILES. You've never done it before. It's too hard. You need to train for yearssss. Blah, blah, blah. Did them all. Each one hard, terrifying, painful, but did it. No one gets to tell me what I can or cannot do. No one gets to tell YOU what you can or cannot do or BECOME. 💥
Coaching. You don't have experience. You've never done it before. You don't know how to ..... Again, BULLSHIT. You don't get to tell me what I can and cannot do, or how big my success can be. Statistics, data points, whatever... you don't get to tell me how big or quickly I can grow my brand. Watch out world, because this girl is going to be a household name around the world and we're going to be doing incredible work to have people exercise their agency and STEP INTO THEIR POWER. We're going to show that you can lead from love, stand for community and collaboration, and have an incredible life doing it! 💫
Each time, had a HARD goal, something EVERYONE told me to take the safe route on, to just keep it safe, to not think too big, to stop dreaming so big, to just keep my head down, each time I had to FIGHT to CHOOSE ME.
My whole life has been an exercise of me telling the world, "I hear what you're saying, I see the numbers, I see the stats" but I DON'T CARE. I GET TO DECIDE WHO I AM. I DECIDE WHO I'M BECOMING. And baby, things are about to heat up. 🔥
Who is an actuary? A person who compiles and analyzes statistics and uses them to calculate insurance risks and premiums. If an actuary had looked at all my data points, my background, immigrant kid that got here not speaking English, living in poverty in the wrong part of town, going to meh schools, latina, a woman, blah, blah, blah, blah. You know what it's to be? Absolute bullshit.
How about you? Are you CHOOSING YOU?
It's time you CHOSE YOU. No one else can choose you. YOU get to choose you. You HAVE to choose you.
I believe in YOU. I see your BIGNESS. I've been told over and over what I couldn't do and who I couldn't become. That sounds like "blah, blah, blah" in my ears. It's time you did the same, every time you hear other people limiting you, heck, even you limiting you I just want you to hear "blah, blah, blah."
SO, TODAY. THIS YEAR, STEP INTO YOUR POWER. 🔥
Claim all that you are meant to become. Know that ONLY YOU can define that.
We're in this together. Baby, we're in for a ride.
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LET People LOVE You
Hey, I need your help.
Yes, I'd love your support on _____.
Hey team, can you support me by _____.
No, I can't do that, I need to take care of myself first.
Sorry, I can't make that time/date.
I need to go sooner than I expected.
Asking for help.
This has been a humbling and beautiful journey. You see, before I started as a full-time entrepreneur, I always was the strong one that held everyone else. The giver. I never NEEDED help (or so I thought), there was simply no space for someone to give to me for a change.
Then I became an entrepreneur and I embarked on a journey of the most incredible self-development I could have imagined. It's been humbling. It's been HARD. It's been beautiful. It's been the most incredible journey I could have imagined, and we're just getting started! 😍
In my entrepreneurship journey I had to learn the concept of surrender and FAITH. I was so lucky to have had incredible self-love coaching before I embarked on this journey of entrepreneurship, because YOU CAN'T DO THIS WITHOUT SELF LOVE.
In my journey, I completely took off my oxygen mask for my business, and we know you can't do that! 🙅♀️
In the process, there were many tears, anxiety, crazy hours, stress, getting sick, you name it. I HAD to let people in and make myself vulnerable to having other people hold me for a change. Welp. 😳
I HAD to learn to prioritize me before I prioritized anything else, otherwise I would have nothing left to give to my business, my loved ones, and the world. That meant getting really comfortable saying NO and setting BOUNDARIES.
And let me tell you, it was the most beautiful (and painful/uncomfortable) lesson to go through, that truly humbled me, but also showed me how loved we can be if we just let others love us. ❤️
People want to feel needed, know that they can give to YOU as much as you give to them. I learned to graciously say please and thank you. I relaxed into trusting and faithing, and knowing that people had my back, and if they didn't it was okay, I was going to be fine. But mostly, once given a chance, everyone in my life stepped up and loved on me so hard. I have never in my life felt more loved and supported, and this only came from being forced to let people in. I can be stubborn sometimes....it's the Taurus in me. 🐮
And now we're here, years later, practiced and comfortable in SELF-LOVE, vulnerability, courage, boundaries, and RECEIVING love and support from the people in my life.
Yesterday, I woke up with not one, but THREE cold sores. I know, gross. I had no more juice in the tank. I was on the couch all day, but you see, I had coaching calls to make with my clients.
So, I did what I've learned to do. I asked my team to step up for me and hold that strength for me, even though they're my clients. And they over delivered. They ran the whole thing, with me sitting on the couch holding space for them. I was so touched that of course, I cried, told them how absolutely amazing they are, and felt SO LOVED. 💖
Tonight, I have a huge launch event. Been prepping for months. And again, I'm going to lean on my team to support me and the work we're doing together. I know they've got my back. They've rallied around me, they're traveling from all over the Bay to make this a kickass event, and my heart is absolutely full knowing that I have such amazing people in my life.
I could go on and on for days about the just absolutely amazing people in my life. My parents, my fam, my friends, my different communities. You know I gush about you all. I just want to say THANK YOU. I LOVE YOU. You make my life and world a better place. 💕
Thank you for holding space, thank you for being amazing, thank you for being YOU.
So, how about you? Are you letting people LOVE you? Are you letting people hold space for you? Letting others be strong for you? ✨
If you haven't, I really recommend it. It's the most beautiful thing in the world.
Today, may you go and LOVE. ❤️
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