Okay, so you're feeling blue, you're not living your best life, you're low on energy, and you're overall feeling like you're in a funk.
What do you do? How do you get yourself from an unresourceful state to a resourceful one? Glad you asked.
Below I'm going to focus on three things you can do to shake off that funk. If you want even more strategies to kick your blues to the curve, watch the entire training in which I include 10 things you can do starting right now to turn your frown into a smile.
So, let's do this!
1. Feel Your Feelings - let's start with first things first. Your feelings are telling you something and it's our job to listen and to be present with where we're at. You never want to make your feelings wrong, making it wrong destroys honest communication and connection with yourself and others. We have to honor what we are going through, rather than just brush it off as nothing. So slow down, take a breath, and check in with yourself. What's going on? Identify the feelings. What exactly are you feeling? What are you really feeling? Why are you feeling this way if you are vulnerable and honest with yourself? What does that tell you about your life and any changes (including changes in perfection) you might need to make?
Now, let's look at a couple of feelings. Did you know that each emotion that you feel is trying to tell you something?
Fear: fear is the anticipation that you need to be prepared for something that is going to happen or might happen. What fear is telling you is do the work to be prepared. Fear includes emotions such as anxiety, concern, apprehension, worry, and fright to name a few. So what can you do? Prepare best as you can, do your homework, put in the time, and then you have to #FaithRealHard. You have to surrender and TRUST, and keep going, keep charging towards living your best life.
Anger: In this group of emotions we have emotions such as anger, frustration, and being peeved. Does anyone else say peeved? No, is that just me? 😏These emotions tell us that an expectation that we had was not met. Whether that be having an important rule or standard that was violated, or our brain thinking things should be different from what they currently are. So what do these emotions tell us? They tell us to look carefully at our lives and assess our expectations. Do these expectations make sense? Do they set us up for success or are they really just setting you up for a lot of heartache? Is there a shift in perception that you need to make, or are there things that need to change around here? Assess and then take action.
2. Compelling Future - Next, create a compelling future for yourself. I won't go too in depth here, because that is exactly what we did during our first class of Life Coaching Monthly (LCM), for two whole hours, including exercises and homework on creating a compelling vision for your life ... that could change your life. The essence of it is: if you don't have a bright future, or a bright tomorrow, to wake up for, goals that make you jump out of bed with a fire in your belly, it's going to be much easier for you to fall into a funk not just once, but again and again. So, find a north star, a version of yourself that feels so exciting that when you think of this version of you that you are working on becoming, you remember that you are wasting precious time being in a funk, and that baby, you've got to get living!
3. Change Your State - finally, you've got to change your state. What does that mean, and how do we do it? Guys, this is sooooo important that I actually got a tattoo of the words "Beautiful State" on my ankle. That is dedication, y'all. I've committed to being an emotional control master-ninja-gladiator-badass. It's that important! It can change your life to be in control of your emotional, mental, and physical state. That is what it means to live a peak performance life. Okay, okay, Luz, I'm sold, you say, how do I do it?
First, MOVE! One of the best things you can do to change your state is to also change your physical state. Bring in physical states that require more energy. What you'll notice when you're feeling blue is that these are very low energy states. You feel meh, you just want to lie in bed and do nothing. But you see, we rise to the level of our conditioning, of our training, in all areas of your life, including our emotions. So tell me, how ripped are those emotional control muscles of yours? If not very, it's time to hit the emotional gym!
How do we train our emotional control muscles? You've got to know that you decide what emotions to entertain. I know, this sounds crazy, but stay with me. You get to decide that you will not allow suffering into your life. This doesn't mean that you can't allow yourself to feel your feelings, and be present with where you really are, but it does mean that you only allow these feelings for moments, not for weeks, months, and eventually for you to become a person who is a "blue" kind of person. Our conditioned emotions turn into who we are. So be very careful with what emotions to allow in. So, you've decided. I will be an emotional master-ninja-gladiator-badass, Luz! Now, what do I do?
Okay, let's roll our sleeves up and get to work. First pump your favorite empowerment song. Don't have one? Check out my playlist. Now, get moving, make your body big, do things that require energy, that make you sweat! Bring up the energy, quite literally, in the room.
Next, words. Be super aware of what words we allow into our day-to-day. When something doesn't go your way are you "fuck@^* pissed!" or are you "peeved"? These words influence the intensity of emotions that we feel. Choose your words carefully, grasshopper. Next, finish watching this training!
Alright all, that's it for today! I will catch you again next week and I'll catch you inside my Life Coaching Monthly LIVE next on 3/26/19 from 7:30pm-9:30pm CT! (but sign up today to be caught up, to craft your vision for your life, and to do the homework!!)
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